Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Immunity to Change
Our most evident reason to engage in contemplative practices is in order to deepen our awareness of the Divine Presence in our lives. We think that would be a good thing. It would be a refreshing and inspiring change. The trouble is, such a change is fundamentally a change in ourselves.
Earlier this week I was confronted by the insistence of a client of mine that she was not able to change. I found this surprising on a good many levels. The most immediate was the surprise born of my personal investment in the transformation of myself and the world. I just assume that is possible.
Just under that awareness was my surprise that she would have chosen to be in therapy and yet would be so certain that this investment of time and money would be of no benefit to her. At least no lasting benefit. Why would she come if she wasn't going to experience durable change?
A bit deeper I found my surprise at my surprise. Of course she was deeply skeptical. We don’t live in a society that much believes that such change is possible. Certainly not after “we are grown.” She was discovering that she has a part of her that doesn't believe in her own power to be transformed. Seen from this light, this was actually a very healthy and healing insight.
Do you believe you can change? Do you have a sense of what you want to have be different? Do you know what is in your way?
On Saturday morning, March 15, we will gather for a conversation about change and transformation. How does it happen? Do we want it? And what might we do to not only get out of our own way, but to use our resistance to change to help fuel the transformation?