When conflicts arise we want to have in mind a way to respond that will move us toward what we need without making the other lose, indeed, without depending on the other changing at all. It is very hard to have a new way to respond when we are caught up in stress and anxiety about the conflict with someone important to us.
Since these conflicts are ones which arise from time to time, we can anticipate they will arise again, we can create a new response, and we can then evaluate and adjust our response for the next time this comes up. ACE is our acronym for Anticipate, Create, and Evaluate. This is the fundamental framework for our more creative response to conflicts in significant relationships. Hope you can join us to learn more.