The larger vision of this program is to provide support for addressing the problems of living that naturally arise in everyone's life. The premise is simple. The application can be difficult. That is why we come together to support each other.
The "Simple" PremiseThe first most important task for any organism is to care for itself. This is true for humans as well. But there is a difference between being self-centered and being centered in our Selves. When we take good care of ourselves we are able to care for others. But our first responsibility is to create what we need. When we do so, we also create what others need.
Some of our needs are things we can create all by ourselves. We can feed and dress ourselves and we can learn to look both ways before we cross the street. But some needs can only be met in the context of our relationships. To meet these needs requires that we develop intimate relationships with others.
Others don't always do what we want. We don't always do what they want. We have conflicts. When we name, address, and resolve the conflicts, we strengthen the relationship and create a stronger context in which to create what we need.
Resolving conflicts may seem to be impossible because we can't make them do what we want and we aren't willing to abandon our own integrity to do what they want us to do. Fortunately, resolution doesn't mean doing what the other wants. It means doing what creates what we need in the context of the relationship. This always means changing ourselves. Addressing conflict is a vehicle for our own transformation.
The School for Living is a classroom for using the persistent pattern of conflicts that inevitably arise in any significant relationship as an opportunity for our own transformation into persons who can create what we need without either the demand or the expectation that others change.